One thing people fail to realize, is that confidence, mystery, being a challenge... it is support. It supports the things that really make a person attractive. You cannot develop these things and be successful without developing other things.
Example: Due to methods well known on www.sosuave.com you are able to create mystery, and you have a great thing going for a few dates.
One day, she calls and you let her get the machine to be a challenge. Well she needs something from you asap so she comes by to get it. She knocks on the door, and finds you playing a game on the internet at 3 PM eating cereal with clothes and papers scattered all over your floor when she thought you were outside doing something important.
Mystery, gone. Challenge, gone. Girl, gone.
However, lets say you had those dates, created mystery, and she comes to your door again. You're just getting home from golfing with your buddies or from a meeting or something similar as you see her at the door. You invite her inside for a moment and she sees that you have a clean place,